
Cardstock: Every card you need this year, in one handy box, from Set Editions.
I am late, late, late with my New Year's post, but that's ok: I wasn't foolish enough to put "be on time" down as one of my resolutions. I've just about given up on that, or at least have resolved to revisit it at some later, less chaotic date. I made a resolution a few years ago, and it stuck, and it had an unexpected and lasting effect on my day to day life. Since then I've taken my resolutions a bit more seriously.*
This year's resolution is a bit amorphous, but what I like about it is that I can do small things in its service everyday. Resolved for 2007: Be more grateful, more often.
I confess that it's mostly sad events that have prompted me to put this resolution at the top of my list. The tragedy of The Kim family is something I watched unfold semi-obsessively. The sudden and shocking death of Leslie Harpold rattled me. Neither of these events had a direct impact on me, but the degrees of separation were uncomfortably close, and both James and Leslie lived lives that I admire and respect and hope to emulate in various ways.
Something stood out in remembrances and mournings that I read about both of them: People saying they wish that they'd gotten to say thank you. Or saying thank you and wishing that the person could hear. Leslie wrote famously about How to Write a Thank You Note and it's advice I've long had bookmarked. (Bonus tip: keep stamps tucked in to that box of cards you always have handy.) I haven't always followed her advice, but there is indeed something deeply satisfying about setting aside the time and effort to formulate a written thank you to some one. It's not just about being polite, it's about remembering. If you take the time to say thank you, you remember the thing you're grateful for just a little bit better.
This doesn't mean that I'm about to transform myself into the Tracy Flick of social correspondence, because quite frankly that'd be unlike me and a little off the rails, and I don't think that there are enough hours in every day of the rest of my life for me to express gratitude to people who've been generous, supportive or just down right nice to me. To get a little woo-woo on you: it's a practice. Just maintaining an undercurrent of gratitude improves my quality of life, banishes at least a little of my persistent neurotic New Yorker guilt and anxiety, and makes me feel like I'm living my life right.
So, yea, resolved for 2007: I am grateful and I am here right now to say it, and there's a vast universe of people and things I'm grateful for.
Thanks today to the three awesome women who came to my place for dinner last night, bringing delicious things to eat (salad! quiche! brownies!), their brilliance, their wit and their willingness to talk about boys and clothes and gossip: Lauren Cerand, Paddy Johnson and Karen Sandler.
*Prior to 2005 I was one of those annoying shift-key-averse people who didn't capitalize anything ever, even, I'm embarrassed to say, my most important business correspondence. Resolving to start doing so had a surprising positive effect: not only did it make me more thoughtful about what I was writing, but it made me feel as if what I was writing was more important and deserved attention and respect. True? I can't really tell for sure, but I'm glad that I did it.